Those of us who have never been married spend an awful lot of time speculating what it's like being married.
We wonder if all married people are happy, and if so, for how long. We wonder what it takes for a marriage to be made in heaven. We speculate whether certain marriages would work out. We guess the reasons for that.
I say it has to do with being ready. Timing is everything. Both parties need to believe in each other and in the commitment. Both parties need to commit.
Today, my equally unmarried friend sent me the following via instant messenger:
"Don't marry someone you can live with.
Marry someone you can't live without."
I suppose this explains why living together is not a good idea. I read a report somewhere that said couples who live together before getting married don't always stay married afterwards. Living together is convenient. But a marriage of convenience doesn't always work out.
And living together, I suppose, is awfully convenient.
22 April 2002 Monday
Reaction from a regular visitor, who is obviously married:
Unmarried women speculating about married life - hah! speculate no more.
Is the institution of marriage such a big deal after all ? Does the contract
with the "MRS" entitlement necessarily spell contentment ? Different
people sign it for different reasons, so just ask yourself what's yours